Hi Folks ,
i have tried both internal ip and external ip i have even removed both, i have made my box dmz with ports fwd properly to boot. disabled winblows defender. i can connect via rcon with both rcon.io and http://facepunch.github.io/webrcon with no ip listed in either my batch file or server.cfg. which i dont use now as all my stuff is in my batch file and loads on startup,

here is my batch, mind you at time of this paste i was just going to shut down and try adding just my external ip to the +rcon.ip and remove the server ip all together as i cant connect from either website. or my phone from work :D which i want to do without renting a host, id much rather be the host :D
@echo off
cls
:start echo Starting server...
C:\steamcmd\steamcmd.exe +login anonymous +force_install_dir c:\Toxic\ +app_update 258550 +quit
RustDedicated.exe -batchmode +server.hostname "SmellyTuna" +server.maxplayers 50 +server.level "Procedural Map" +server.seed 239876134 +server.worldsize 6000 +server.identity "Toxic" +server.ip "*.*.*.*" +server.port 28015
+rcon.ip "*.*.*.*" +rcon.port 28016 +rcon.password oops +rcon.web 1 +server.description "Very Chill Server Newb Friendly Available commands /mymini /nomini" +server.headerimage "https://i.ibb.co/bL1Wtqp/2015-01-16-03-22-22.jpg"
-logfile "ServerLog.txt"
echo.
echo Restarting server...
echo.
goto start

so this was one issue? right? i hope i am ok to make this thread :)
also i know *.*.. just binds to all network adapters :)

Make sure you are using 0, not *. I know the site has filters for IP addresses, so just making sure.

thank you sir, i will try that :)