please help, i have tried several reintalls and using kits by its self.  tried granting permission to admins. tried making kits with "/kit add kit 1"still no response from /kit

I know it might be a waste of time but try typing "plugins" in rcon just to show all plugins that are actually loaded,
if it is loaded make sure you gave yourself permission to use the commands,
kits.admin -- Allows player to use admin functions

If you see no response, it most likely errored. Please check your oxide/logs for errors.