I am starting a server for the first time ever and am lookign for some support with getting mods to work the way i want them to, since I am not a programmer or anything like that I am having a difficult time getting some things to work because i don't understand exactly what I am suppose to be typing. I am trying to create a PVE server with PVP zone, kits, all kinds of crazy action, I really wanna make it something exciting and fun. I have worked on some things and got them to work like no decay, no radiation, no reflective damage but some things I just can't get to work, I want to learn to do it myself but I r3eally need some coaching! 

The 100% best thing to do is read all the documentation for the plugins which explain how they work and what to do to configure them, If you have problems with a certain plugin go to that plugins "help" page and see if anyone else has had that problem and read the posts to see if there is a solution already there, If there isnt  solution start a new thread with your problem and wait for someone to answer it,
Just remember the main rule and that is DO NOT alter the .cs file , You only edit/configure the Data/Config/Lang files when needed.

Yes, this is what I have been doing, I just don't understand when it says things like in Rust Kits, I followed the instructions to make a kit, but when I hit redeem nothing happens, then I look at this 

• /kit <option1> <value1> [option2] [value2] [option..] [value..] -- set the options for a kit you are currently editing " and I am like what the hell does all of this mean? :) I have never tried anythign like and have suggested that all of this could be done through a nice GUI if all the programmers would make them :) I really just want to have a nice server to play on but no one has a crazy server like I want. I have tried to find a "game server setup with all features desired " package but this doesn't exist, so i am fumbling through it with youtube, GSK's and here:) its gonna be long and painful but I hope to get the server I want exactly and create a fun place for ppl to hang out.

Its pretty logical actually, First put everything you want the kit to have into your inventory, so if you are making a starter kit you would add wood/stone/metal/food/axe/pickaxe and dress yourself in the clothing you want the "redeemer" to have, Then
(in chat) type /kit add <kitname> and a menu will appear;

Authlevel =if for basic kit dont bother with this, ( if for admin type /kit authlevel 2) if for vip type /kit authlevel 1
cooldown is the amount of time between being able to redeem kit = so if every 12 hours you would type /kit cooldown 43200 (as time is in seconds)
description = what shows when you type /kit  and a list of availble kits will show. *except for autokit and hidden kits, you type /kit description "A basic kit" or what ever you want to use.
max = The total amount of this kit available before it has to be reset , type /kit max 20 or whatever number you choose.
hide = when you dont want it visible (admin/VIP/Autokit) type /kit hide true/false
Items = What you want the kit to contain type /kit items and it will copy everything that you are wearing and what is in your inventory (not backpack contents)
npconly = ignore this unless making kits for bots (botspawn plugin and you would use /kit npconly true)
permissions = Use this when making custom kits when you would use /kit permission <permission name> so if you were making a custom kit to reward players for time spent on server and had a ranks system with a rank "Veteran" you would have to first create a chat group called Veteran (/chat group add Veteran) and then give that group the permission for the kit
/oxide.grant group Veteran kits.<permission name>

I dont use the gui or the kit options functions but the info is available in the documentation .

What kind of crazy do you want on your server ?

Well I want lots of events going on, airdrops with advanced loot, when they drop also stronger scientists spawn to defned the loot, of course santa coming every hour to drop off gifts to keep morale going! helicopters and tanks to spawn and attack players who have high rankings on the server ( so we have to have a rank and reward system) , pvp arena area with super loot drops covered by scientists and murderers ) tracking for most NPC's killed/Players killed for monthly rewards. I would like to have other NPC's to fight, building anywhere, I really want to make it crazy random, you never know whats gonan happen when you start opening boxes and barrels, and also want to produce more ammo when you make ammo, I like everything else kinda grindy, I already did improved stacks, added recycler, and 10 other mods I am working to get tweaked right.

If you need someone to completely build a server exactly to your specs with valid references of past work down, please feel free to contact me.
I won't work on issues created by previous "devs" or others, i prefer to total wipe and fresh install servers because tracing issues others have cause is much more time consuming than just writing a totally new server.

If you are into learning it all on your own and just want some solid advice, that's free of charge just join my discord and send me a dm.
Just pm me here for a link to my discord, i can walk you thru setting up kits or anything else in my free time.

Good Luck creating your community.

Thank you so much DM sent!