im using deathnotes with rust cord but want to hide it coming up in chat. can you add an option to disable it by default for anyone who joins

RustCord seems to have an option "Enable Logging: Deaths" which can be set to false in order to not log to Discord. Does this cover your scenario?

so on my server i want to us rust cord to log death note but dont want the deaths to show in chat if that makes sence 

If I understand correctly you never want to log to Rust chat but log to Discord instead.

DeathNotes has a setting to enable/disable showing kills in chat which can be set to false

  "Show Kills in Chat": false,

RustCord logs death notes independently by implementing the OnDeathNotice hook which is not affected by this setting.