when i type o.grant group vip bypassqueue.allow it says Permission 'bypassqueue.allow' doesn't exist and the plugin is installed

That generally means the plugin is not loaded. Check your oxide/logs for errors.

(15:16:10) | BypassQueue was compiled successfully in 2060ms

(15:16:10) | Unloaded plugin BypassQueue v1.0.1 by Nogrod

(15:16:10) | Loaded plugin BypassQueue v1.0.1 by Nogrod

When are you trying to grant the permission?

o.grant group vip bypassqueue.allow

Right, but WHEN are you using that command?

what do you mean i am on the server typing to grant the vip role to queue jump