having an issue where my bps as teamleader get shared to my friend, but his bps dont get shared with me, any ideas?

Do they have the correct permissions?
Do they have blueprint sharing enabled?
Do either of you receive a chat message?
Is there any error in the server console?
Have you modified the default config?
Are you just using Teams?

Yes.
Yes.
he gets a message saying he got bps from me, i get a message that says i shared bps with him
No.
No.
Yes.

Does this happen when using the share command or just automatic sharing?

just automatic. for me to get his bps he needs to actively use the /bs share command